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Happy Thursday everyone 🙂

I was planning on coming on last night to chat but I had the BIGGEST headache all day. I’ll do that Revolut Q&A tomorrow. So many questions came in about it so I’ll make sure to explain everything as best as I can. It’s honestly the one thing I can’t live without when I travel. We went to Des Kelly yesterday to pick floor for Lily’s new room, so I’m excited to get started on that next month. I’m in work today and tomorrow and off then for 5 days which I’m looking forward too.

I absolutely love writing blog posts like this as it’s just me, my thoughts and my laptop.

So back to the post…..what are the lessons that I have learned in my life so far that I want to share with you all? 

Always strive for more 

Happiness is a choice. Never settle 

Don’t judge, Learn the facts 

Loyalty is everything. Keep your circle tight 

Watch your back. Not everyone is your ‘friend’ 

You can NEVER take too many photos 

Don’t forget to say thank you. Be grateful 

No regrets just lessons learned 

Things take time. It’s not a race

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Always strive for more

So the first one is about striving for more always. Take for instance wanting to get a degree and then going on to do a masters or training to be a makeup artist but then going on to become a tutor. When it comes to educating yourself, you cannot do enough of it. Another example is being in one of my first jobs. I joined part time as a Supervisor at 18 but I wanted to become the manager so I did. Within 2 months, I was key-holder and within 4 months I was manager. If you show enough passion & drive in a job, you can be what you want. When I first joined as cabin crew in 2016, I was happy doing just that. I decided to do a flying lesson and that was it. I was sold and knew that I wanted to do it as my job. I went on to do more flights in 2017 but then fell pregnant at the end of 2017 so I had to put my dream to the side. At the time, I was delighted to be pregnant but at the same time sad to put the dream on hold. Within 16 months I’m sitting here writing this pregnant again except the one difference is, this was the new plan. I was happy to putting my dream to the side and concentrate on our family. My dream can still happen but my family is first for now. I am so happy to have Lily and her sibling close together now. I’ll get there. It might not have been my original plan but that’s ok. Eventually I know I will get there. Someone once said to me they admired my drive for succeeding in life and I’ve never forgotten that. Ever since school it’s something I’ve en-grained in myself. It’s a mind-set thing, you can always do what you want but it’s HOW MUCH you want it that will depict your results. Remember that. 

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Happiness is a choice. Never settle.

Whether you are 16, 22, 30 or 45. NEVER SETTLE. Just because you are with your childhood sweetheart doesn’t mean you have to marry them. Life is too short to be unhappy. If you are with a guy for 8, 9 or 15 years and not feeling it’s right, don’t feel the need to settle just because it’s comfortable. There are no rules in life. You are the only person who can make yourself truly happy. So many women will just settle because they feel they won’t get better or that they don’t have a choice. You ALWAYS have a choice so remember that. I made my huge decision in 2017 & I have never looked back. My point is only YOU can choose to be happy. If you’re not feeling it, let that other person go live the life they deserve too. If you are someone in doubt of your situation, don’t think you are alone. I’ve had so many messages from different women in the past few years about leaving their partners. It’s ok to break free guys, it might be the best decision you’ll ever make for yourself.

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Don’t judge, Learn the facts 

This lesson is about social media. One thing I’ve learned about our generation is we often judge based on what we see online, when in reality we haven’t a BREEZE! We run with something even though we might not even know half of the story. Always remember that social media only shows you PART of someone’s life. I think I focused on this a lot over the past few months. I really stress to not compare yourself to people online. They aren’t showing you their failures, they aren’t showing you their arguments with their husbands, they are showing you what they WANT to show you. I know 90% of wouldn’t dream of commenting or sending a nasty message to someone but sadly there are the other 10% that have no problem with this. So before you screenshot a photo for your what’s app group to gossip about that person, think twice. We all need to remember that there are real people behind that screen with real feelings like you reading this. I know that with a growing following you have to take the good with the bad however it’s not nice to be at the receiving end of something very nasty & that’s something sadly I know all too well. You never EVER know what someone is going through off the camera. Don’t be that person. Think twice gals. Let’s be nice in 2020.

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Loyalty is everything. Keep your circle tight 

A big lesson that every single girl will learn at some stage in their life. As we grow up, we loose friends. We loose them through college, after school going your separate ways and just through life. I remember at 16 having a house party with about 200 people there, it was MENTAL!!!! I knew everyone there and it was just crazy. I remember at one point having over 1200 friends of Facebook at the time too but did I REALLY know that many people? Not a chance. As the years went by, I unfriended a lot of people I had lost contact with. It happens and that’s fine. Those of you that are older will understand this already but those younger you’ll soon realise, that life isn’t about the number of friends you have but the close ones who never leave your side no matter what. Being a loyal friend is the best thing you can be for someone. It’s not about what they are like to your face but it’s about how they speak about you when you aren’t there. Friends speak highly of friends, friends don’t belittle friends. If you belittle a friend, you aren’t a TRUE friend to that person. Remember that it’s ok to loose friends along the way in life. Having a close circle of amazing friends is better than having a massive circle of fake friends. I promise you 😉

Watch your back. Not everyone is your ‘friend’ 

This lesson has got to do with your job. Always remember that in a work situation, you don’t all choose to be friends. You are all there because you happen to work for the same company. Don’t get me wrong you can make some incredible friends in your jobs as you grow up. Some will go on to become your bridesmaids, some will become like sisters and some you’ll never want to see again. It’s life! But always remember a work friend might not always have your best interests at heart. Some might want that promotion just like you and will be willing to do anything to get it. For example in a job I worked in a few years back, there was a girl who would have thrown me under the bus on numerous occasions just to impress the director. She had no morals and didn’t care what it took to get to the top. Personally for me, I’ve always gone about my work life in a different way. In another job, I was constantly working with different people so you really didn’t get to know anyone that well. That can be hard because realistically you never know who to trust and it can become a lot harder to make friends. In my work life I’ve learned a lot growing up. I started working at 12 so I’ve had my fair share of realising that not all your ‘work friends’ are really true friends.

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You can NEVER take too many photos 

Growing up I wanted to take photos of everything and a million of them. I love photography and just having something to look back on. I remember my friends would to give out to me for taking so many photos but I just loved them. You can NEVER have enough photos. I took hundreds of photos when I was in Australia as it’s great to be able to watch my journey over my time there and see what I did. It’s the same with holidays, you might forget and then look back on them again thinking we really did have an amazing time. A photograph can hold so much meaning down the line. It’s like when you first have a baby and maybe you’re not feeling great so you avoid photos like the plague BUT you’ll be grateful for having those photos in time. So get in them photos, nobody else needs to see them but you…..you’ll be grateful you have them, It might only be until years later that you realise how much that moment meant to you & you’re so glad you caught it on camera. So always remember if your friends are moaning about you taking too many photos, let them moan and keep snapping 😉 It will be them thanking you in years to come girl.

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Don’t forget to say thank you. Be grateful 

This is something I learned a long time ago and it’s stuck with me ever since. Manners cost nothing. I’ve worked in retail, customer service and hospitality my whole life. There is no need to be rude to someone on purpose for ANY REASON at all. I had an incident before in an old job, where the woman was an absolute weapon. She was extremely rude to myself and three of my staff at the time. I remember genuinely thinking to myself about how unhappy that woman’s life must be for her to do what she done. A simple thank you and showing gratitude can mean all the difference. It doesn’t cost any of us anything, imagine IT IS FREE. We don’t have to pay a cent. In a managerial job I was in a few years back, people would go out of their way to help me because I was a nice person to them & treated them with respect. Someone once said to me you don’t have to say thank you all the time and I said “No I do. I’m grateful for you and the job you do for me. If someone does a good job for me, I thank them”. My parents brought me on a massive holiday when I was 15 & spent an absolute fortune of us and it’s something I’ve never forgotten. Still to this day, sixteen years later I thank my parents for that trip. I never let them forget how grateful I am for how much money they spent on us that time or even life in general. Always remember, a thank you can go a LONG way.

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No regrets just lessons learned 

I’ll never ever regret anything I’ve ever done, I’ll always just think of it as a lesson I learned from. I think it’s a great saying. I don’t believe in regretting anything ever. I spent a long time with a guy in my 20’s and do I regret that time? NEVER! It’s not a lesson I learned either but it’s more I’m thankful for the experiences I had. A few times throughout my life I’ve learned lessons with friends. I’ve maybe said something in the heat of the moment & later thought I shouldn’t have said that but it’s not a regret. That entire situation was something I learned from and went on to make sure something like that would never happen again. I am very cut throat when it comes to trusting people and if someone does something on me or my family, then that’s it. I had an experience with a friend when I was 18 and it was to do with my parents, we never spoke again. I would never stop being friends with someone for no reason. I had a huge falling out with two girls a number of years ago as they just turned out to be very different than I thought. Do I regret how it turned out? No….never. I’m annoyed I didn’t realise sooner what type of people they truly were. I definitely learned who to trust and who not to trust in my 20’s. A lesson every girl learns growing up for sure.

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Things take time. It’s not a race

And so I’ve come to my final lesson and one I believe is one of the most important ones. I spoke about life not being a race last year in my birthday blog post and how we all do things at different times now. Back in the hay day, you had to be married with kids by 26/27 otherwise you were on the shelf. Today it couldn’t be further from it. Life is not a race and to anyone out there unsure of their situation or thinking about where their life is going, DO NOT WORRY. Things take time. The beauty of life is there are no rules. Our generation are lovers of the unknown. They don’t care as much about buying a house and more about experiencing everything life has to offer. Do I blame them? NO WAY! Life is for living. If you want to go move abroad at 30, absolutely no harm. If you want to work in India as a yoga instructor at 38, still no harm. Life is what you make it. Don’t judge yourself based on your peers or other people for that matter. You do you always. Everything will happen for you when it’s supposed to happen. Sure look at me, if you told me 4 years ago that I’d be with a different guy, have a house together with a little girls and another baby on the way, I would have told you to cop yourself on. I literally would have laughed at you. We just don’t know what will happen in life. We don’t ever know what is around the corner. So take each day as it comes, enjoy it and remember it’s not a race. Your time will come 😉

I actually really enjoyed writing this one. It got me thinking a lot. I always write as if I’m chatting to a friend as that’s how I find it easiest to write. I don’t use big words or sometimes the ‘correct language’ but I use what suits me. If you don’t like my writing style or grammer, that’s fine J Nobody is making you read my content. I’d love to know your feedback on the post. I may be nearly 31 but I do feel like I’ve learned a lot in my time here. I think my lessons are very relatable and ones that so many of you will go through also.

Love Aoibhe xxx

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