Hey guys,

Happy Monday. New week, new start and all that jazz right?

Today I went for my two week check up on my Botox in the Beacon Face and Dermatology clinic to check all was ok. No more needed as all settled in well. I’ve been getting it done for a year now just on a couple areas on my forehead. I am happy to talk about it publicly as I’d rather be open and honest about it. Unlike a few others whom say they have nothing done, yet it’s so obvious they do. I also got a Hydra Facial done today too. My first since I had Lily. I try to get these done every 2 months as when I’m working flying really dries out my skin. It’s not like a normal facial, it’s one that gets deep into your skin and really gives it a good clean. I always feel my face is super glowing and clean for weeks afterwards. They are actually doing Hydra Facials for 100euro at the moment from now until 16th of November. You can check them out HERE. 

Anyway back to the post. I saw this quote a few weeks ago and just decided I wanted to do a post on it. I sometimes get inspiration from simple things like this. The quote is:

Don’t Compare Your Life To Others. There’s No Comparison Between The Sun and The Moon, They Shine When It’s Their Time

Facebook and Instagram bring social comparison to a whole new level. People will show the most aspirational versions of themselves online. Some are just real people, showing real life but a lot are showing you only what they want you to see. Everyone has different reasons to why the use social media. Some use it for work, some use it for fun, some use it to keep in touch with friends. It can be hard to stop comparing yourself with others as it can really have an effect on your whole self esteem. Personally I feel I show the bad, the good and the ugly on social media. I wear no makeup, I wear makeup, I talk about tough times and I speak about happy times. That is being real, showing all aspects.

Social media makes us ASSUME a lot. We make quick assumptions of people based on what??? Their 10 frame Insta Story every day? That’s only a tiny part of their life. We tend to assume that when something is going well in someone’s life that their ENTIRE life is the same way which can be far from the case. So many of us scroll through Facebook or Instagram looking at others and we can’t help but compare our lives to others. The girl with the banging body, the couple who are so in love, the perfect little family across the road, the hot guy with the beautiful girlfriend, the hot girl with the sex bomb boyfriend. We as humans constantly compare ourselves to one another. We may not think it, but we do.

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I HATE that. I hate it so much. It’s the main reason why people can become so nasty online. It’s horrible to watch. In my blogging career I’ve had my fair share of hate. People who honestly have nothing better to do. These people are fuelled by following people online and are jealous of whatever the hell I don’t have a clue. It’s ridiculous. I’m jealous of NOBODY. Why? I’m not a begrudger. Take for example a conversation I had with a friend recently about Lauren Arthurs (Love Lauren). We were chatting about how she is always away on amazing trips and goes to fabulous places. We weren’t talking negatively about her at all, only positive. We both said that we would absolutely love that and how amazing she was doing, how we only wish that we could go on that amount of trips away. I said FAIR PLAY TO HER. If I could, I would too. Why can’t everyone be that way? Or at least try to be. Why can’t everyone say…..Fair play to the neighbours for getting that new 182 car, fair play to their friend for landing ANOTHER promotion or fair play to Rosie Connolly for having such growth on her Instagram since she announced she was pregnant again.

That brings me onto the next part. I saw recently someone messaged Rosie about ‘buying followers’ when I most definitely know that is not the case. When she announced she was pregnant her following started to grow rapidly again as she said and that was all that happened. She explained how she has grown completely organically since she started etc. I for one was only on 21K back in March and now I’m on 46K. That has been since I announced my pregnancy too. For whatever reason it happened and my following grew so much. I would never ever mail someone I didn’t know hate or a hurtful message. I don’t know how people do it. People need to realise that you don’t see every part of someones life on social media. You don’t see the full 24hrs of every day, you only see a 5 minute Insta Story or a few photos, that is all. Those girls are real people too with feelings and I think a lot of people forget that.

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Everyone shines when it’s their time. Everyone’s timeline is different. For example, I’m 29 and I’ve a baby, boyfriend and a house. I know a girl who’s 29 with no boyfriend, no house and no baby. Am I happy? YES. Is she happy? YES. We are both cruising along on our own timelines. She’s total content working and striving hard in her career. She’s busting it and doing so so well for herself. She hasn’t time to think let alone have a boyfriend or kids. I’m totally content with having my family now and that’s how life is. I won’t compare myself to her because that’s her choices and this is mine. Everyone’s life is different and just because someone else has something doesn’t mean you need to have it too. You might get your house at 25 or 35, you might have a baby at 30 or choose to have babies at 18, you might choose to go back to college at 30 or 40, yet someone else may have done it on leaving school.

Your time will come. You will shine when it’s your time. You may not think it right now but you will. If you are focused and putting in the graft, then you are already one step closer to your end goal no doubt. Anything worth having is worth waiting for right? We are all on our own little journey. My journey is different to your journey, my mums journey and is certainly different to that person I follow on Instagram with 600K followers journey. My goals are different to your goals, that’s what makes us all so unique.


I wrote another personal blog post earlier this year on My Thoughts of Turning 30. You can READ IT HERE. It’s about how I am feeling going in 2019 knowing that I will be three decades old.

Please remember that happiness is found when you stop comparing yourself to other people.

I hope you enjoyed the post 🙂 Make sure to let me know what you thought on Instagram @aoibhedevlin

Love Aoibhe xxx



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