Lessons I’ve Learned in Life

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So I asked you guys on Snapchat which blog post you wanted next and this one got hundreds of screenshots so here I am. I’m half watching the last few episodes of Power, half writing this. What a series. Thanks to all those who recommended it. WOW it’s incredible. I’m off to Toronto next week and I know I’ll get a good few posts done on the flight over but I wanted to get this one up before I went. I literally cannot wait for this trip as it’s another tick on my bucket list. We are off to see the amazing Niagara Falls however one thing we didn’t look up before we went was the weather. It’s -17 with wind chill so I’m packing for warmth not fashion this trip. 

So back to the post…..what are the lessons that I have learned in my life so far that I want to share with you all? 

Always strive for more 

Happiness is a choice. Never settle 

Don’t judge, Learn the facts 

Loyalty is everything. Keep your circle tight 

Watch your back. Not everyone is your ‘friend’ 

You can NEVER take too many photos 

Don’t forget to say thank you. Be grateful 

No regrets just lessons learned 

Things take time. It’s not a race

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Always strive for more

So the first one is about striving for more always. Take for instance wanting to get a degree and then going on to do a masters or training to be a makeup artist but then going on to become a tutor. When it comes to educating yourself, you cannot do enough of it. Another example is being in one of my first jobs. I joined part time as a Supervisor at 18 but I wanted to become the manager so I did. Within 2 months I was key-holder and within 4 months I was manager. If you show enough passion & drive in a job, you can be what you want. Personally I’m happy at the moment just being a crew member but I hope to go onto become a Senior & then go into Training. Someone once said to me they admired my drive for succeeding in life and I’ve never forgotten that. Ever since school it’s something I’ve engrained in myself. It’s a mindset thing, you can always do what you want but it’s HOW MUCH you want it that will depict your results. Remember that. 

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Happiness is a choice. Never settle.

Whether you are 16, 22, 30 or 45. NEVER SETTLE. Just because you are with your childhood sweetheart doesn’t mean you have to marry them. Life is too short to be unhappy. If you are with a guy for 8, 9 or 15 years and not feeling it’s right, don’t feel the need to settle just because it’s comfortable. There are no rules. So many women will just settle because they feel the won’t get better or that they don’t have a choice. You ALWAYS have a choice guys so remember that. I made my huge decision last year & I’ve never looked back. If you never got a chance to read my blog post, you can read it HERE. It’s a good one, I promise you. My point is only YOU can choose to be happy. Let that other person go live the life they deserve too. If you are someone in doubt of your situation, don’t think you are alone. I’ve had at least 60-70 messages from different women in the past 9 months about leaving their partners. It’s ok to break free guys, it might be the best decision you’ll ever make for yourself.  

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Don’t judge, Learn the facts 

This lesson is about social media. One thing I’ve learned about our generation is we often judge based on what we see online, when in reality we haven’t a BREEZE! Last year so many people thought I left my fiancée for my current boyfriend when in reality it couldn’t have been further from it. I was unhappy for a very very long time but just didn’t share that with anyone. It was a personal thing to me & I didn’t feel the need to say that publicly. Everyone was so quick to judge from social media but yet 90% of people really didn’t even know the situation. People love to gossip. Always remember that social media only shows you PART of someone’s life. I have this love hate relationship with it like for instance, I wasn’t on social media for nearly a month over Christmas & I heard these crazy rumours. I WAS SICK and didn’t have the head for social media, big whoop! Before you screenshot a photo for your what’s app group to gossip about that person, think twice. That person has feelings and a life too. It’s not nice to be at the receiving end of something very nasty & that’s something I know all too well from an incident I had last Summer. Think twice gals :) Be nice. 

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Loyalty is everything. Keep your circle tight 

A big lesson that every single girl will learn at some stage in their life. As we grow up, we loose friends. We loose them through college, after school going your separate ways and just through life. I remember at 16 having a house party with about 200 people there, it was MENTAL!!!! I knew everyone there and it was just crazy. I remember having over 1200 friends of Facebook at the time too but did I REALLY know that many people? Not a chance. As the years went by, I unfriended a lot of people I had lost contact with. It happens and that’s fine. Those of you that are older will understand this already but those younger you’ll soon realise, that life isn’t about the number of friends you have but the close ones who never leave your side no matter what. Being a loyal friend is the best thing you can be for someone. It’s not about what they are like to your face but it’s about how they speak about you when you aren’t there. Friends speak highly of friends, friends don’t belittle friends. If you belittle a friend, you aren’t a TRUE friend to that person. Remember that it’s ok to loose friends along the way in life. Having a close circle of amazing friends is better than having a massive circle of fake friends. I promise you 😉 

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Watch your back. Not everyone is your ‘friend’ 

This lesson has got to do with your job. Always remember that in a work situation, you don’t all choose to be friends. You are all there because you happen to work for the same company. Don’t get me wrong you can make some incredible friends in your jobs as you grow up. Some will go on to become your bridesmaids, some will become like sisters and some you’ll never want to see again. It’s life! But always remember a work friend might not always have your best interests at heart. Some might want that promotion just like you and will be willing to do anything to get it. For example in a job I worked in a few years back, there was a girl who would have thrown me under the bus on numerous occasions just to impress the director. She had no morals and didn’t care what it took to get to the top. Personally for me, I’ve always gone about my work life in a different way. In another job, I was constantly working with different people so you really didn’t get to know anyone that well. That can be hard because realistically you never know who to trust and it can become a lot harder to make friends. In my work life I’ve learned a lot growing up. I started working at 12 so I’ve had my fair share of realising that not all your ‘work friends’ are really friends.

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You can NEVER take too many photos 

Growing up I wanted to take photos of everything and a million of them. I love photography and just having something to look back on. I remember my friends would to give out to me for taking so many photos but I just loved them. You can NEVER have enough photos. I took hundreds of photos when I was in Australia as its great to be able to watch my journey over my time there and see what I did. It’s the same with holidays, you might forget and then look back on them again thinking we really did have an amazing time. A photograph can hold so much meaning down the line. It might only be until years later that you realise how much that moment meant to you & you’re so glad you caught it on camera. So always remember if your friends are moaning about you taking too many photos, let them moan and keep snapping 😉 It will be them thanking you in years to come girl. 

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Don’t forget to say thank you. Be grateful 

This is something I learned a long time ago and it’s stuck with me ever since. Manners cost nothing. I’ve worked in retail and customer service my whole life. There is no need to be rude to someone on purpose for ANY REASON at all. I had an incident a few years back in an old job, where the woman was an absolute weapon. She was extremely rude to myself and three of my staff at the time. I remember genuinely thinking to myself about how unhappy that woman’s life must be for her to do what she done. A simple thank you and showing gratitude can mean all the difference. It doesn’t cost any of us anything, imagine IT IS FREE. We don’t have to pay a cent. In a managerial job I done a few years back, people would go out of there way to help me because I was a nice person to them & treated them with respect. Someone once said to me you don’t have to say thank you all the time and I said “No I do. I’m grateful for you and the job you do for me. If someone does a good job for me, I thank them”. My parents brought me on a massive holiday when I was 15 & spent an absolute fortune of us and it’s something I’ve never forgotten. Still to this day I thank my parents for that trip. I never let them forget how grateful I am for how much money they spent on us that time or even life in general. Always remember, a thank you can go a LONG way. 

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No regrets just lessons learned 

I’ll never ever regret anything I’ve ever done, I’ll always just think of it as a lesson I learned from. I think it’s a great saying. I don’t believe in regretting anything ever. I spent 10 years with a guy and do I regret that time? NEVER! It’s not a lesson I learned either but it’s more I’m thankful for the experiences I had with him. A few times throughout my life I’ve learned lessons with friends. I’ve maybe said something in the heat of the moment & later thought I shouldn’t have said that but it’s not a regret. I learned so much from the situations and went on to never make the same mistake again. One of the girls I’ve never spoken to again but I’m at not loss without her, one girl I’ve spoken to very briefly but we’ll never be friends again and one of the girls we got back friends & I adore her so so much. The third girl and I went through so much & we were attached at the hip. Although we don’t see each other as much anymore I know 200% she is always there. Anytime we meet up, it’s like we never ever stopped talking. That entire situation was something I learned from and went on to make sure something like that would never happen again. I don’t regret what happened with the other girls, I just learned who to trust and who not to trust. A definite lesson every girl learns growing up in this crazy we live in. 

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Things take time. It’s not a race 

And so I’ve come to my final lesson and one I believe is one of the most important ones. I spoke about life not being a race last year in my birthday blog post and how we all do things at different times now. Back in the hay day, you had to be married with kids by 26/27 otherwise you were on the shelf. Today it couldn’t be further from it. Life is not a race and to anyone out there unsure of their situation or thinking about where their life is going, DO NOT WORRY. Things take time. The beauty of life is there are no rules. Our generation are lovers of the unknown. They don’t care as much about buying a house and more about experiencing everything life has to offer. Do I blame them? NO WAY! Life is for living. If you want to go move abroad at 30, absolutely no harm. If you want to work in India as a yoga instructor at 38, still no harm. Life is what you make it. Don’t judge yourself based on your peers or other people for that matter. You do you always. Everything will happen for you when it’s supposed to happen. Sure look at me, if you told me this time last year that I’d be with a different guy and buying a house with him, I would have told you to cop yourself on. I literally would have laughed at you. We just don’t know what will happen in life. So take each day as it comes, enjoy it and remember it’s not a race. Your time will come 😉

I actually really enjoyed writing this one. It got me thinking a lot. I always write as if I’m chatting to a friend as that’s how I find it easiest to write. I don’t use big words or sometimes the ‘correct language’ but I use what suits me. I’d love to know your feedback & thoughts on the post guys. I’ll pop a photo up on my Instagram now & you can comment underneath with what you thought. I may be 28 but I do feel like I’ve learned a lot in my time here. I think my lessons are very relatable and ones that so many of you will go through also. 

Happy Saturday to you all and hope you have a great weekend. Always remember one thing 😀

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Love Aoibhe xxx

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